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Thursday, September 20, 2012

TRUE SUCCESS


"I looked for you in the  darkness, I searched for you in the light, but all I had to do was look inwards, for you were somewhere deep inside"


Just when I was wondering as to why I have titled my blog as ‘LETS TALK SUCCESS’ even though I have not been able to achieve “success” in what I have been struggling for since years, that I met my long awaited “success”. Finally, I got a government job, which I have been longing for since years. Though I tasted the fruits of success, I was not sure that this was what would be my reaction after achieving it. I began to think over it. I was reminded of the days when I would literally give up everything in my life, no matter how dear it was to me, to see this day or this thing called “success” happening to me. But now, when it is actually happening to me, why is it that I’m not jumping out of joy or dancing in happiness or screaming out of madness? This is not to say that I didn’t enjoy my selection, I’m thankful to God that this happened to me. I consider myself to be really lucky. But something was missing I thought.

Retrospection actually forced me to think about the rigorous course of my preparation for this examination. Was I not then successful, when I woke up every morning with a desire to perform better than the previous day? Was I not successful when I got happiness from answering the questions of KBC sitting with my friends? Was I not then successful, when I would take a break from long hours of study and go out to eat momos? Was I not successful then when I would appreciate spending time with my loved ones? Is not staying put when everyone else has backed out a success? Is not dreaming big and then striving hard to achieve it a success? Yes, this is what success is. Success is not a destination. Deriving pleasure out of small little things is true success.

But in the midst of the desire to achieve something “big”, I feel somewhere I have missed out on the simpler pleasures that life has to offer. I have never built great relationships to avoid distractions, I have given up smaller dreams to run after that “bigger” one, I have disappointed my friends innumerable number of times for cancelling our get together plans, I have missed out many ceremonies back home to attend to the books. In short, I was too busy in postponing little happiness to savor it in the future once I get “successful” in life.

But now that I have become “successful”, I am actually regretting the wonderful times that I could have had. Life is short. Sometimes we get so busy in chasing the bigger pleasures of life that we lose sight of the smaller ones. If we are able to relish the moment without losing sight of our dreams, desires and ambitions that my dear friends is what I call true success. So go out, chase your dreams, build strong relationships, make your friends and family happy, tell them that you care for them, for this life is short and its days numerable.

Friday, February 17, 2012

A DIFFERENT TODAY!


I might not have always got what I loved , But I have always chosen to love what I have got, and believe me it is all worth it in the end”
       

Today was not one of those days when I would get up latein the morning and savor my breakfast in front of the tele-vision, today was different. It was one of those days when I had to cook the breakfast for myself , rush from one corner of Delhi to the other, attend back to back two-hour lectures, and then rush back to where I started on time, to avoid cooking the other meals myself, without getting insane.


So, after a multitude of efforts, I finally managed to force myself out of the bed, and got ready for the hectic schedule that lay ahead for the day. I got myself readied and rushed towards the Green Park metro station and was surprised to see metro crammed with people in such an early morning hour. People who ranged from those nine to five office goers , wearing shirts and trousers to those typical Delhi University students with knee length shorts(though many were far above) and those green/red/black converse chappals. I positioned myself comfortably at one corner of the metro as I wished to have a sound nap for the next 40 minutes of the metro run. But constant fidgeting of the people deprived me of the surreal experience, so I rather took out my ‘Rich Dad Poor Dad’, an around 200 paged book, that I have been attempting to finish since past around 3-4 months and began reading it.


Nevertheless, I reached THE faculty of social sciences on time, came to the class and occupied one of the corner seats. Not wanting to have messed up the first day at my new college, I preferred to confirm it from someone if it was the right class I was sitting in.“Excuse me, is this M.A Poitical Science previous class?” I asked a girl who was sitting in a row just ahead of me, as I kept my ‘Rich Dad Poor Dad’ back into the bag. She said a “yes” with an apparent perplexity on her face. Her look made me even more confused. As if not been able to resist the temptation, she turned back, and asked me “is this your first day at the class?”
She almost fainted when I nodded. She gave me a bizarre look as if I am some alien that has forcefully come to the class and that aliens entry is “strictly prohibited” in the class. Then she turned her back against me and I stood there flabbergasted. Not willing to entertain even a single further question from her, I pulled my chair further backward so that either I am not visible to her or at least she is not visible to me for the next 4 hours. But what still amazes me is her extreme reaction.Anyways ,she is one character whom I will discuss even later, not for my disliking for her, but how she always manages to amaze me with her “wit”!


Okay, so now the lecture begins, the first one was on the “Politics in India” which I enjoyed immensely. The professor was a learned person, taught us many things about India’s development, the clamoring of Emergency in 1975 under our very own Indira Gandhi ,reservation politics and blah blah. The lecture was an engrossing one and without much effort the first 2 hours passed away. But what really impressed me was the second lecture on “Political Theory”, a subject that I hated the most till today. The professor, was the exact replica of what I always imagined an “intellectual” to be. Her whitish grey hair, plain white saree with golden border , and that “glow” on her face was enough to convey to me that I am going to have the time of my life in the next 2 hours. And corresponding to my expectations, I really did. The discussion ranged from natural sciences to social sciences, encompassing the crucification of Christ and the other two people along with Him, the law of gravity , what is normative what is empirical , augusta christie’s novel etc atc,and believe me it was marvelous , I never thought that I can listen to this subject with so much interest and commitment.Certainly ,a good teacher is what you need to make a dull, lifeless subject, vibrant with life!


So this marked the end of the 4 hour lecture for today which had to be followed by tutorials which I skipped. Then I headed towards the library to do the necessary formalities, when I met ‘her’ again. Yes, the girl with those “bizarre” reactions. She started off the conversation and I being democratic by nature could not walk away. She began enquiring about what I have been up to since past 2-3 years, and I was again amazed at the degree of respect that she suddenly showed towards me when I told her that I was preparing for civil services. I could not control my laughter at that time. Anyways, annoyed by so many questions that she bombarded at me one after the other about my coaching, optionals etc etc, I lied to her that my friend was waiting and that I had to leave. But another blunder that I committed was,asking her name. “Oh, what’s your name?” I asked, as I peeped into my mobile,“Pretty” was the answer that I got.“ Excuse me did you just say that , or I heard it wrong” was what I was about to say but “oh preeti” was what I said. “No no, It’s not ‘preeti’, it’s ‘pretty’.” She exclaimed with too much emphasis on the letter ”t”, showing her apparent dislike for the former name. I did not know how to react to that, neither could I smile back at her. I just walked away from there with the same bizarre reaction that she showed towards me in the very beginning.


So this was the story of the day. Masters is a wonderful experience. I wish I had the foresight few years back of the apparent benefits of a post graduate programme. But sometimes destiny has other plans for us and it leaves no other option for us but to abide by it. Nevertheless as my all time favorite Chanakya puts it-“Beeti baatein bisar ke, jo aage ki sudh ley, Usi ko jag mein yash mile, usi ki jai jai hoye."

P.S - This post was suppossed to be published last year, blogger is really sorry for the delay, though she hopes that her readers enjoy it!